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*sigh*
 I must admit, writing this post is a little bit awkward for me. I have a brother and I've been trying to help him since ever and every time I tried, I failed. 
Therefore, my question is -  how to help a helpless person? Is there any way? Any chance? Will it , eventually, turn out? 



He turned 28, recently (December) and he still does not have a serious job. But he is not willing to get one either. He always waits for the best conditions and constellation of stars, he always runs away when the discussion is about him and his no-life and... I am just frustrated. 

Yeah, surprisingly, he got a girlfriend, the whole family accepts her, but she is not helping him either. She is happy when he takes her  in father's car and she is happy when she eats out of our fridge in the midnight ( because other people in this house do not sleep, of course...) and she does not push him... Maybe she does not see it because she is in love so much, but what do I know, right? 

So, basically, he has this beautiful room, full of new furniture (which my father bought him, obviously) and a laptop, old Nokia, which does not bother him (because he hasn't experience d advantages of having a smart phone) and that's it. He uses our wifi, he eats out of mum's fridge and she cooks for him (yes) and he uses our bathroom (i share with him) and he does not clean after himself. AND HE IS FULL OF EXCUSES (and this runs in our family )

But he doesn't have a life. He doesn't have a social life. He doesn't have friends anymore, he got no job, he doesn't attend school because he failed his exams and he is not so willing to get back to school  again. He is almost in his 30s and doesn't give a shit about his situation ! And this is driving me mad! His life is basically going through his fingers.
I care so much about him, I am trying to convince him, saying "try to send CV here and here", but that is not a job which would suit him because he must've been working 8 hours per day and not getting thousands of euros... 

My father loves him, he got four daughters and just this one son. So sometimes, when my father conquers his room and wakes him up (because my bro loves to play a lot - pc games - and sleeps during the day, how "awesome" is that) and persuades him to get up and help him, after long four hours, my brother comes to my dad and apologies and they are good again and they chop wood or something "manly" together. 

And my father forgets everything, because he is just fine when someone is nice to him. Which I can't stand. Because they are not asking him for rent or anything either, which would probably cause that he would be forced to move his ass and work. 

And this is getting on like forever. So his girlfriend doesn't care if he has some money or  future plans, he doesn't want to get married or settle either. He dreams of being a stunt (like our father was) but he never really worked for it or convinced someone that he is a fit for this job. He got a gig like 3 years ago and he was asleep and always late and my father's old co-workers just couldn't stand him.  He never truly wanted to be a stunt man but he wants it because he is lazy, wants to earn thousand of euros in a couple of months and probably to be famous and our father has connections. But he doesn't have it in him. 
He is very talented in many other ways and very intelligent too, but he is the laziest person alive and also a procrastinator professional which is very sad. 
He is unemployed his whole life and he is almost 30 years old. He just plays video games or meets with his GF and that's it. That is the one third of his life like. 

Please, if you have or had a family member like this in your family, help me. How to get a person like this to make things happen, to get a job, to change his life? Is there anything? :( 

Please comment bellow. 


Have a nice day, 

xoxo <3


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I gotta tell ya. This year will be tricky one. I finally found some special energy in me, I found what I want to become and how to enjoy the life, finally, to the fullest.. 


Ironically, I started this blog with the first post about New Year's Resolutions. And I have to admit I did not fulfill any of them.. :( 

So, this year is NOW OR NEVER. No, I'm not going to cut my hair off if I do not succeed, or to punish myself for skipping some things. I just want everything to mix up in my life, so that it will become a natural part of my everyday life. 
For instance, I want to be more active. Not like drinking and partying all day, err day. I just want to go roller-blading, ice-skating or biking instead of sitting in a pub drinking without a purpose. I want to host more tea parties and movie nights instead of sitting in someone's living room listening to all that crap! 

So here is my list. It is very similar to the system, which is in my favorite book (and only book I read in the year 2013..:/ ) PROJECT OF HAPPINESS by Gretchen Rubin.  She wrote about specific goals she would like to achieve in each month. But me, instead of setting goals in a month, I just want to apply them as many as I could in everyday of every month this year :) 
Be more realistic.. 

Here we go : 

  • Try to organize more active hang outs - biking, roller blading, walking in the park, swimming
  • Visit new places -  try new cafes, visit someones's house where you have never been before
  • Use your planner (FILOFAX) more often! Be more organized! Follow your daily TO DO list and check all tasks in that day! 
  • Try everyday to do something with this blog :) New post, new feature, learn something new EVERYDAY about blogging! 
  • Do not forget to behave! Think before your are going to say something out loud! ( Especially when I am talking to my boyfriend or family members!) Be silent when you are supposed to, stop teasing people around when they are uncomfortable around you and always think through what are you going to give away from your big mouth! 
  • Bond and reunite more with your friends !! organize more social events, be that one who is asking how everybody is ! :) 
  • Earn money ! Do not spend them on everything you need. Do not spend them on food!! Use them wisely!
  • Try to cook more often. Learn to cook and learn to bake new things! Yay
  • Learn new DIY projects. Try  every month a new DIY:) 
  •  Start your YOUTUBE "career" :) Try to make new video at least once in a month. 
  • Make healthy choices! Do not eat so much. When you feel hungry, find a healthy substitute or drink water!
  • Start attending box lessons :)
  • Care more about yourself! Pamper yourself! Have a good shower or bath, put on some lotion everyday.
  • Make yourself pretty! :) Play with make-up and  nail polishes more and LEARN SOME NEW TRICKS WITH HAIR
  • Change your wardrobe. It's over for "grandma style"!
  • Learn to create things in Photoshop! 
  • Print out your pictures, get frames and make albums! 
  • Focus on school, get the bachelor degree! (in 6 months! )
  • Find new job, which will make you happy!
  • Be more cheerful. Do not concentrate on drama when there is none! Do not bear other's burden, just live your life without extra useless worries! 
  • Listen to your instincts!
  • Show your love to your parents and boyfriend EVERYDAY!!!!!!!! 
  • Draw something new at least once in a week!
  • Buy collections "for dummies" ale learn new things, don't be stupid! 
  • Always get better, and always work on your strong will
  • Get a new tattoo (not a priority, but it would make me happy :) ) 
  • Decor your room finally!
Thanks to my BF, I realized that the quote "Believe in your dreams and they come true" is a big bullshit because I've been believing in all things written above for some years, and let me tell ya, none of them happened. And guess why? Because I just sat there on my chair and watched youtube videos instead of making one! I could had been on their places but instead I was just watching their great lives! So... EARN IT THIS YEAR! 
Maybe I will add to this list something new overtime. :) But this should be it. 
Let be inspired by my list and let me know what you are up to in this beautiful year of 2014! 

xoxo <3 

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